Quick Dating Tips – Differentiating Yourself in College by Learning New Shit Over the Summer

This one’s for all the college bros out there, for whom Summer break is waiting for just around the corner.

You might have an internship. You might even have a full time job. You might have lots of porn and a date with your right hand, every night, for three months.

In all of those cases, you will have LOTS OF FREE TIME.

“No way, Vichet! I’m gonna be super busy!”

Yeah. “Busy.”

Don’t bullshit me. I was in college, too. I held a full time job two summers in a row and still had time to do whatever the hell I wanted for 8 hours a day. Unless you’re traveling the world building houses or doing medical outreach and shit, you will have lots of free time this summer.

All I will tell you to do in this article is to use it.

Why?

For personal development. You will never have more free time to discover what you’re capable of than you have in college. Don’t get me wrong, life outside of college kicks motherf*ckin’ ass – or at least however much ass you make it kick. But still, college really is a special time where no one is judging you and someone else is paying your bills. Run with it!

And also, the skills and stories you will come back to campus with will increase your reputation 10-fold. You will take steps to becoming a funner, more magnetic person. Which, if you need a bro-speak translation, means “you’re gettin’ laid, bro!”

Many of you won’t take my advice, because you’re lazy or a dipshit. But, that will work to the advantage of people who DO take my advice, because you will be 10 times cooler than the lazy guys next to you who didn’t take my advice.

So without further ado, here are are 9 things you can do over the Summer to differentiate yourself in college:

1) Have some way to make your own money.

It can be part time, full time, or whatever. But you need your own spending money. You need to know what things cost in terms of your labor. That will put your post-college life in perspective, AND earn you cash.

2) Get in shape (or in better shape).

It’s not as hard after you stop bitching and moaning. College does a number on EVERYONE’S body, because let’s face it, we still latch onto a lot of stupid animal instincts – ever see a goldfish die from eating too much? Don’t be that way.

Find a gym buddy who has made a similar transformation – these people are everywhere. Key points are eating right and exercising. Do some research and find what works for you – you’ll be surprised what you can pull off in a month.

3) Have an adventure.

Doesn’t matter to me what adventure you have – it should speak to YOU.

Do something you’ve always wanted to do, or that would result in you being able to say something cool about yourself that you’ve always wanted to be able to say.

Suggestions? I dunno. Do a tough-man competition. Or an actual adventure race. Cliff-diving. Cross country road trip with a friend. Something. Just do it. Find a way.

Don’t forget to write down what you do – you might forget some details that you don’t want to forget, and that stuff makes GREAT conversation. I met two guys the other day who biked across country over their Summer break, stopping wherever the hell they felt like.

There are many options for many price levels. Just do something – don’t let all that free time slip away!

4) Learn how to make drinks.

This one will make you hugely popular in college. If you haven’t already, stockpile a small stash of respectable liquors that you will use only for your close friends and dates when you get back to campus. Use it judiciously, or you might find yourself spending a LOT of money.

5) Learn how to cook respectably well.

This isn’t negotiable, because no matter who you are, you can learn to cook respectably well. It’s a learned skill.

More importantly, it’s practical, saves money, and will be CLUTCH in helping you not become fat after you graduate. Trust me on this one.

You have to throw yourself into it. Find a cooking buddy. Experiment. Use your parents’ kitchen, and treat them for once by making them dinner.

Use the internet to find guides and tips for your favorite recipes. Start simple, and try a new challenge once a week. You can make it extra fun for yourself if you learn how to cook with fire.

Your first couple of meals might be “meh” – but you’ll start to get into it more, and when you notice improvement, you’ll really start to enjoy it.

6) Get a few nice outfits to go out in, meaning more conservative and less douchey.

This is coming from a guy who owns a tee-shirt that says “Vagina is for Lovers.”

Dressing well sounds gimmicky and stupid, but it’s way less gimmicky and stupid than neon tee-shirts and crocs. At least my tee-shirt fits well. Photos of you get posted to the internet whether you like it or not, now – if you think girls don’t judge on looks, you would be wrong, sir. You will go far if you can still look like a fun guy without looking exactly like every other guy in the photo. Also, I hate neon.

I still see a lot of college kids around because I teach a dance class at a very large University. You should see what these guys wear to parties – you will stand out in a very good way if you just flatter your figure with some good clothes.

Remember: Well-fitting clothes on a guy is to girls what sexy lingerie on girls is to guys.

7) Learn how to not sound like an idiot.

I know you’re smart, but being smart is, counter-intuitively, not all there is to not sounding like an idiot. You need to be able to carry on easy conversations, especially with large-chested women who make you nervous. Boobies tend to make college kids try too hard to sound cool – bad move.

A couple of tips – imagine yourself with the voice of Morgan Freeman instead of your own. Does he sound ridiculous saying “like” or “umm” 20 times in one sentence? Then make him stop doing that! Get him back to the baller tone and delivery from “Shawshank Redemption” that you know and love.

Also, learn to listen. I’m not talking about just being silent and waiting for your turn to talk again. Listen. Not just to people – to everything around you. It’ll help you gain an intuition for how people and things tend to work.

Also, join Toastmasters if you have to.

8) Learn how to not look like an idiot while dancing.

This is also non-negotiable, at least for college kids.

I don’t care who you are or where you go to school. You will find yourself at a party at SOME point and people will want to be dancing.

I’m not asking you to be Mikhail Baryshnikov. I’m just asking you to put yourself out there, and also not look like a tool doing it.

EVERYONE can learn how to dance and at least not look like an idiot. It’s not even really about dancing that well. It’s just about not being like every other bro in the room, leaning against the wall while the ladies are humping each other on the dance floor – YOU could be in the middle of that!

I’ve personally taught hundreds of people (and was myself someone) who didn’t think they could ever learn to put one foot in front of the other.

The only difference between “dancers” and normal people is that dancers keep at it.

Get over yourself and take a few classes – because, hey, you have NO idea how popular this (in combination with #6 and #7, and when you get her back to your apartment #4 and #5 ) will make you with the ladies.

9) Make friends of a similar mindset who also differentiate themselves in cool ways.

These friends will help you get laid more, yes. But more importantly they will keep you accountable to yourself and help you get farther in LIFE.

Good friends will uplift you, and help you see and do things that you probably never thought you’d be able to do on your own. If notice – most of my tips up there include the advice “get a buddy to do it with you.” It helps so much more than I can describe to have people around, keeping you accountable.

There you have it. It might seem daunting at first.

Remember that you have three months. Yes, that IS enough time.

Not only that, a lot of you are Ivy League-ers. And even if you’re not, you were still smart enough to get into college. Are you suggesting that you can’t pick up skills as simple as the ones listed above, yet you’re planning on going into finance/engineering/medical school/graduate school/generally being alive?

For shame.

It’s one thing not to know how to do those things up there, it’s another to think you’re incapable – quit being a douche and just do it.

Which brings me to my overall point – take advantage of the Summer!

Make mistakes. Learn what works and what doesn’t for you. It becomes much more difficult to drop off the face of the earth to develop yourself after you get out of college, so use this time to do it.

You will come back to campus, and look like you’ve evolved. You’ll exude confidence from your new-found competencies. Girls will be wondering what the hell you’ve been up to that made you so cool.

“Did you hear that _______ did _______ over the summer?”

“No way.”

“Yeah. And he makes a kickass galette.”

“I LOVE GALETTE!”

They’ll probably wanna hear about it over those kickass drinks you learned to make, too. And they definitely want to stick around for those galettes that they know you make, because their friends told them about your kickass cooking.

The power of a good reputation (which most people don’t have in college), and the awesome skills needed to back it up (which most people don’t have in college) are powerful aphrodisiacs indeed. Take it from a guy who’s been there – and also from my other guy friends who kept me accountable and have also been there.

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