Quick Dating Tips – 5 Bruce Lee Quotes as Applied to Dating

You might be calling bullshit on me for this one. I just have one response:

So, are you sure you want to bring skepticism into this house of learned men and doctors?

I thought not.

Anyway, Bruce Lee was a student of philosophy as well as beating-the-shit-out-of-everyone-ology. But did you know that he was also a font of hidden dating advice? Looking back on his wealth of knowledge, accrued through a storied but all-too-short career of turning his enemy’s faces into mushy vaginas with fists of fury, it’s hard not to think of him as a dating guru. I mean, he WAS the 1958 Crown Colony (Hong Kong) Cha Cha champion when he was 18. With moves like that (and the ability to turn anyone into a pile of body parts), who WOULDN’T be successful with the ladies?

I mean, just look at him! Tell me that’s not a guy who knows his way around the block.

The following 5 quotes exemplify Bruce as a master of seduction (if you replace all of his mentions of martial arts with “dating”):

1) “Training is one of the most neglected phases of athletics [dating]. Too much time is given to the development of skill [theory] and too little to the development of the individual for participation [practice].”

This one is all about what Bruce called “physical readiness.” In order to fight, it’s not enough to know techniques and tricks. You have to be strong enough. Fast enough. That’s not something you learn by discussion or lecture. It’s something you get from practice – doing things hundreds and thousands of times until your body is used to them.

This applies to dating in two ways. The first and most obvious is that if your body looks like a train wreck, you often disqualify yourself before you can even start a conversation.

The second is something that many new guys experience. They discover pick up and seduction material, and suddenly it’s like they’d seen daylight for the first time. They read, and read, and read.

They become masters of theory. Of techniques. Of thinking.

Yet for all that knowledge about how to get a woman, where are the results? Well, I’ll tell you – all the theory and knowledge in the world means nothing if you haven’t practiced it. Newbies overwhelmingly have the same problem – they haven’t been in enough real social situations (at least when it comes to dating) to have an ease and confidence about them. Those guys, for all their “technical know how” will never get off the ground, and will be standing in the corner while a guy with more experience being around women cleans up.

It’s not just about what you know – it’s what you can take and apply.

2) “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”

This one is a complement to the first quote up there. It also addresses the necessary balance between theory and practice.

Basically, Bruce here separates the guys who “know how” to get dates from the guys who actually do get dates. I mean, I can talk about theory and give you tons of advice for almost every situation under the sun, but that doesn’t change the one truth that YOU need to get out there and apply it. Thinking about getting a number will only tell you how to get a number – it won’t get you the number! You won’t get the number unless you are ready and willing to go out there and get it.

Bruce will tell you to hone your readiness for the field by physically being there, and developing your mindset in the situation, rather than focusing on pre and post analysis, which ultimately is just mental masturbation.

Do not just think – do!

3) “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”

This one is critical.

If you’re new at this: You will fail. A lot.

If you’re a veteran: You will fail. A lot.

If you’re Don Juan: You will fail. A lot.

If you’re Bruce Lee…

“Go ahead, Vichet. Say it.”

… you will win at everything all the time!

Okay, but seriously, my point is that these little, and medium, and large failures are all a part of life, and your level of success in any field will be determined by how you deal with your failure.

Girls will say no. Or they’ll stop calling back. Sometimes, it will be because you slipped up, said the wrong thing, did the wrong thing, or whatever. Sometimes, it’s just because you weren’t compatible. If it’s because of something YOU did, though, make sure you learn from it!

If you’re ready to admit your mistakes and learn from them, you can move on. Experience is a harsh teacher, sure, but is invaluable nonetheless.

4) “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”

This is possibly the most powerful quote you can have in your dating arsenal. I mean, really, how many times have you caught yourself thinking “man, I’d really like to talk to that girl, but it’s too loud in here/too many people around her/I’m feeling self-conscious/I don’t know her”?

You can come up with an infinite number of reasons, all beyond your control, for why you shouldn’t talk to a girl. The timing isn’t right. You’re “not her type.” There are too many guys paying attention to her.

Or how about even before you get into the field? Maybe you think you’re physically unattractive. Maybe you’re shy. Maybe you feel stuck in your life. And sometimes you ARE stuck.

But, let’s stop dancing around the issue – you’re scared. You don’t want to fail. So you look at all the circumstances that say you shouldn’t do this or that, and you stall.

If you were this cool, you wouldn’t stall.

Bruce Lee needed only one reason to talk to the girl, to get in shape, to live his dreams: he wanted to. There are no circumstances. Just opportunities – you either miss them, or try to take advantage.

5) “Obey the principles without being bound by them.”

When the pick-up craze ignited, everyone was raving about enlightenment. Suddenly, internet nerds (like yours truly) knew everything there was to know about women and dating.

And then, like, 3 months later after the ladies caught on to our game, it all went back to the same old situation of not getting laid. At least, for those who believe in the sanctity of the “The Game” and the “Bro Code.”

Others (hopefully yours truly) adapted. And we became closer to ourselves, discovering that it’s not about “the rules.” It’s about taking what you have and finding your place on the curve.

And believe me, there are rules out there. List and lists of rules. Half of them conflict with each other. Don’t call within 3 days. Don’t give her more than 5 compliments. Don’t mention your dog’s name if it starts with a “T.” Don’t talk about having a threesome until you’ve already knocked at the back door.

And no, I’m not going to say that all of the rules out there are invalid, or don’t matter. A lot of them make a lot of sense, and experimentally they just plain work.

But, if you were Bruce Lee, you’d always be aware that there is a hidden wisdom, a real truth, behind each rule. Rules are just partial expressions of those truths.

I’ve already talked about the calling within 3 days thing. It’s not because women all get out their stopwatches after they give you their number and time you. It’s because they don’t want to date a desperate guy who has nothing going on in his life. There’s an amount of skepticism you would tend to  create in her if you call too soon – I emphasize “tend to” because if she likes you enough, you won’t create that skepticism (that once).

So, really, it’s just about calling when it makes sense. It’s all about having a sense of the principles without the burden of over-specific situations and outcomes. Because, trust me, you will come across a situation where none of the advice you were given directly applies. At that point, you will need to trust yourself.

This applies to all the “rules of dating” that I or anyone else will give you. We make these rules for beginners because they literally have no sense about any of this, and they NEED stricter guidance.

I always tell guys who come to me that eventually, they have to start thinking for themselves. I’m not trying to give them advice that keeps them coming back – I’m trying to give them advice that will allow them to eventually guide themselves.

Dating isn’t an exact science, and so you don’t need to stress out about being exact every time. Do things when they make sense, and keep your eyes and ears open so that you know when things stop making sense.

In conclusion…

See, I titled this article “Bruce Lee Quotes as Applied to Dating” because he wasn’t talking about dating. Shit, he wasn’t even talking about martial arts. He was only using martial arts as an expression of his views of life, and our purpose on this planet:

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”

Bruce was talking about life, and what you can do to fulfill your goals.

So, explore your limits. See what you’re capable of. You might surprise yourself.

Are you convinced?

Good.

Because if you didn’t like this article, Bruce’s ghost will reach out of your screen like in the Ring, but instead of frightening you to death like that little girl, will just chop you in f*ckin’ neck and go back to doing situps in heaven.

Romance!

One Response to Quick Dating Tips – 5 Bruce Lee Quotes as Applied to Dating

  1. sandeep lee says:

    i love u bruseeeee

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: