QDT – To Text, or Not To Text: A Strategist’s Approach
March 6, 2014 1 Comment
I’m not dead, bitch! I am busy though. And, writing all this crap for free kind of plays second fiddle to doing other things for not free.
Economics. Learn it.
Anyway, today I’m going to talk text. Or at least one specific situation in texting.
We’ve all been in that situation where we get someone’s number after a night out, and then text to make plans. But, then we don’t hear back right away.
Anyway, you send a girl an invitation for the bacon and biscuits jamboree, and who WOULDN’T expect a girl to be all over that and text back right away? The shit is tight.
Regardless, sometimes you don’t hear back. Which brings us to our impasse:
If you text a girl with some plans and don’t hear back for a couple of days, should you text again?
If you know me in real life, you know I’m a huge opponent of having actual conversations over text. This is because I think every conversation you have over text can be had better in real life, where there’s touching and casual booby massaging involved. That, and I truly believe that a conversation by itself is not an indicator of romantic interest. Either way, if you’re wasting all of your interesting conversation over text, you can’t use it in real life without sounding like a tool.
That said, if you haven’t heard back from a girl in a couple days after texting her about upcoming plans, you should absolutely text again. Here’s why: texting her again will let you know, beyond a doubt, whether she wants to spend time with you.
“Always text again to follow up?” you ask, incredulously. “You always told me to stay off my phone keyboard!”
Right, right. But, in this case, you get a special dispensation. This is because the second text will very easily tell you whether or not the girl is actually interested in you.
Assuming that she’s interested in you, you should always text again to follow up
Why didn’t she reply the first time?
Doesn’t matter. Maybe she was busy and forgot. Maybe her phone got eaten by an alligator. Maybe her appendix exploded (happened to me while I was seeing a girl once). You never know.
BUT REMEMBER, she’s interested in you until proven otherwise, and texting again to follow up will not lower her interest level in you by any significant margin (unless your text sucks donkey balls and you somehow manage to insult her mother/heritage/sensitive topic here).
If anything she’ll appreciate it because an interested woman WANTS to spend time with you. And, like I said, sometimes something legitimately happens where she accidentally doesn’t get back to you.
So, if she’s interested in you, texting results in a date. Woo!
But what if she’s NOT interested in you and meant to blow you off (in the non-fellating kind of way)? Wouldn’t we just want to save face and not text again?
Didn’t I tell you to assume interest? Text again anyway. You don’t know she’s not interested. And it costs you nothing to text again to find out. If she ignores, or straight up tells you to stop texting her, then you know she’s not interested and you can drop it.
The beautiful thing is that the simple logic of approaching women in real life also applies here. Most guys don’t approach a girl because they’re not sure she’s interested. I say approach a girl because that’s the only way to know for sure.
So, there you have it. The one time I will ever tell you to text a girl.