QDT – To Text, or Not To Text: A Strategist’s Approach

I’m not dead, bitch! I am busy though. And, writing all this crap for free kind of plays second fiddle to doing other things for not free.

Economics. Learn it.

Anyway, today I’m going to talk text. Or at least one specific situation in texting.

We’ve all been in that situation where we get someone’s number after a night out, and then text to make plans. But, then we don’t hear back right away.

The perfect setup!

The perfect setup!

Anyway, you send a girl an invitation for the bacon and biscuits jamboree, and who WOULDN’T expect a girl to be all over that and text back right away? The shit is tight.

Regardless, sometimes you don’t hear back. Which brings us to our impasse:

If you text a girl with some plans and don’t hear back for a couple of days, should you text again?

If you know me in real life, you know I’m a huge opponent of having actual conversations over text. This is because I think every conversation you have over text can be had better in real life, where there’s touching and casual booby massaging involved. That, and I truly believe that a conversation by itself is not an indicator of romantic interest. Either way, if you’re wasting all of your interesting conversation over text, you can’t use it in real life without sounding like a tool.

That said, if you haven’t heard back from a girl in a couple days after texting her about upcoming plans, you should absolutely text again. Here’s why: texting her again will let you know, beyond a doubt, whether she wants to spend time with you.

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DTE – Part XII – Kino, and Indicators of Interest

What is “kino,” you ask?

It’s how pick-up communities refer to physical touching in a romantic/sexual context. A handshake, a hug, an arm around the waist, a playful punch. You know, cootie central type stuff.

Beyond that, kino is key to establishing and developing physical comfort between two people. Assuming both parties want to be physically comfortable in the first place, or are at least curious about whether they would be. Hint: if you’re on a date with someone, that person is usually curious about whether you both would be physically comfortable with each other, so make a move, jerk.

Most people follow what’s called a “kino escalation ladder,” which sorts specific instances of physical contact by their generally accepted level of intimacy. Read more of this post

Quick Dating Tips – 5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Try to “Build Attraction” Over Text, Email, or Chat

I’ve seen some hilariously bad advice centered around “text game” – the idea that you can get a woman interested in you, and build her interest, through texting her.

Now, theoretically, this is possible.

In the same way that, theoretically, if I immortal and were to continuously clap my hands together for eternity, that the winds of earth would eventually reach my resonant frequency of claps and the resulting vibrations would tear the world apart.

What have I done?!

What have I done?!

So, yeah, a lot of things are possible in theory.

Seducing a woman through text is one of those things.

So without further ado, here are 5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Try to “Build Attraction” Over Text, Email, or Chat.

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Quick Dating Tips – 5 Ways You Can Avoid Sounding Like A Talentless Dickweed

Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?

Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?

Yeah. We’ve all had those moments.

There we are, celebrating that royal beat down we gave to the laws of physics when we pulled that totally sweet parkour and rescued the president from ninjas! We’re knocking a few back at the bar, and a gorgeous lady with legs up to her neck walks over.

“Hey fellas,” she says. “What are you all celebrating?”

Then, it happens. “Uhh… hi. Brian. I’m Brian. My friend Vichet, we’re… parkour. President. Saved from ninjas! Number?”

“What?” she asks, put off by your slurring.

Okay, so that never happens exactly like that. One, because you’re likely the kind of guy that women don’t approach off the bat (work on that), and two, because no one actually fumbles over words that much.

Oh, but people, you DO fumble over words. And it makes you look like an asshole. Not in the good way.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but in the information age, it’s really important that you don’t have recordings of you sounding like a retard, because between Facebook and Youtube, that shit will follow you around like herpes.

So, this is more life advice – but, this advice applies any time you’re interacting and talking with ANYONE in ANY CONTEXT. Job interviews, dates, meeting new friends, impressing coworkers, you name it – you will get much farther EVERYWHERE with a silver tongue.

And no one’s born with it. So here it is: 5 Ways You Can Avoid Sounding Like A Talentless Dickweed

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Applied Table Theory – Proximity: Long Distance Relationships

Let me start by saying there is no such thing as a long distance relationship.

Sorry. If you’ve never actually met the girl IN person and never spent a significant amount of time interacting with her outside of World of Warcraft, you have no relationship.

If you’re reading this article because that’s what you thought I’d be talking about, get off your computer, become attractive, and go meet some women in real life.

That’s not the focus of this column.

What I’m going to focus on here is a strong relationship that must, for unavoidable reasons, endure periods of distance.

See, what happens to most people, is they get into a relationship, then something happens, and then they end up separated without having broken off the relationship, or defined how it would work given the distance.

The “something” that separates you and your woman could be anything. Could be a new job in a new city that you or she can’t refuse. Could be something like a death in the family, and you’ve gotta fly back home for an indeterminate amount of time to settle the affairs. Could be that the Sith Lords have finally returned to wage war against the Jedi Order, and you’re needed on the outer rim.

Regardless of what causes it, sustained distance causes an undeniable strain on any relationship, and given enough time, will break ANY relationship.

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